A Shock found out during LUNCH TIME

I had no idea what happened on 101010
until this afternoon when I for once have my lunch in the pantry
when it is packed with my seniors colleague.
They were chit-chatting, as usual during lunch hour.
So... i start catching up their topic
since i decide to stand and have my quite lunch
which provided FREE by my company. =D

They were talking about very young died in the accident,
18,19, just graduate.
From A-Z....
from news to personal....
Just love listening to their conversation,
i listen every time, but never comment.
Then i asked a stupid and silly question
"When did it happened?"
"101010" they replied.
"you didn't read newspaper ah?!" they commented

Seriously, i've no idea.
Yesterday was so tedious and tiring.
SO i flip open the newspaper of yesterday and today.
I read.....

After reading, i google for photos.
I prefer photo story telling then words story telling...
but i won't mind reading both.

I felt my heart aching when i read the newspaper,
i felt sickening when i saw the picture.
The accident was very fatal.
I saw the 2D Pile-Up structure of the accident from The Star.
You can imagine how fast that bus was....
that can cause such a unbreakable, unstoppable force.

for DETAIL visit
http://www.seventh-angel.net/2010/10/12/10-10-10-delima-express-bus-tragedy-at-km223-north-south-expressway/

I posted a few photos on facebook too.
But a friend comment that it is better not to spread
the whole thing on Facebook,
cause it will somehow trigger the triggered the pain all over again.
I sort of agree, therefore i withdraw those photos.

The accident was really serious that
some of the victim cannot even be recognize....
face also came off....
there is one with out the upper body sort of thing....
Gross, but feel sorry at the same time.

And Star also said the blame game starts again.....
however, i would say,
no one to be blame but the driver.
if he did not speed, everything will be fine.
If he is not speeding, and he somehow lost control for a second,
the incident will not be this serious, fatal, and so bloody vivid too.
so......... I've no pity for the dead bus driver.
And if he is not dead......
he can't be doing anything else but to either regret for life,
kill himself or get hang to death by law.
hmmmm. but maybe the law will just
hang his license and make him serve jail terms.....

Anyway, RIP.
next life will be better.

Karak R&R, scare the shit out of me!!

Just something to share.....
No photos, no video, just words.
And description of what i felt...

Few day ago, 3rd of October,
I went to this Lata Tampin waterfall with some Facebook acquaintances.
In the morning, KARAK R&R is where we meet up with the others.
The hike might be shared in another entry. :)
If i manage to dig sometime out... to blog about it.

SO, Not many people there in the morning,
we went for the hike,
Around 3.30pm, we had some issues which ended up,
we did not clean ourselves around that area.
SO we decide to get ourselves a place to clean up.
KARAK R&R is where our next stop is.
It was packed with MALAYS-ian.
My sister n i went to the toilet to clean up.
and when we exit the toilet....
WOAH! the queue was THAT LONG!!
obviously i got a shock.
every single one of them are MALAYS.

I have no idea why, suddenly i just DON'T feel SAFE....
I faster walked out of the toilet, and
Once i stepped out,
I sees more MALAYS.
which is terrified! I landed myself onto a foreign land. O.o|||

Someday ago,
I used to walk freely and feel peace and calm among the others.
I've no idea whether it has something to do with what i read,
or what i heard, or what i saw....
which make me feel so afraid of being among the "others".

During RAYA, i went raya puasa market to buy food for my family.
I sort of pondering whether to go, or not to go again
after the first visit to the SG Besi apartment area,
I feel scare wey.

The whole market, I walked from the 1st stall to the last stall.
I'm the only "other" there.
It was the same feeling in KARAK R&R.

Anyway, this is just a share of my thoughts and feeling.
And I don't think i'll go there again if i've a choice.
As remark,
if i'm not following the current affair in newspaper/internet,
I don't think i'll be feeling this way.
However, it is not easy for me to just drop my habit of reading the current affair,
Million thanks to my lecturers during my degree education.
(^.^)

ASIAN and SEX? WHY NOT?!

No sex please, we're Asian

(MALAYSIAKINI 2010)

Really??
NO SEX?
My 2 cent, I disagree on the summarize statement by NST too,
that "not teaching kids about sex early enough is the reason
for the problems with teenage pregnancies
and other related problems."
However, NO SEX please, we're ASIAN.....?!

Early sex education don't really play a role in this matter,
lets say family plays a more important role.
WHY?
honestly, i'd never pay much attention in class
while i'm in primary and secondary school time.
SO how on earth i got educated on sex??

I grew up in a very open minded, 90% freedom given family.
I'm allow to do and involve in many things and activities that
older generation might not agree to.
At my young age, I get to watch any movie, drama
shoot by anyone, any country.
I'm allow to listen to any songs,
Surf any Internet page,
Chat with any people that I don't know on ICQ, MSN
Hanging out with friends until late night,
Lepak-ing around Mamak,
or even clubbing and night life,
It is all allowed.
I can read any books,
and articles that I want,
even share and discuss it with the family during after meal chit chat.
I'm even allowed to watch porn!
(don't believe that?! my family and i watch together gether lo.)
I got all the influences from the western culture,
such as, TATOO piercing, Body piercing, hair dying, etc.
(My mother even paid for my TATOO!
A white lady asked my mother "WHY are you paying for her tatoo??!!")
Try guess what my mother said.
.............

I don't see what's wrong with the western culture,
my parents both think that i'm too westernize,
BUT, they always agree to me when I reason on some issues.
I became even more mature in thoughts and mind than many other people.
I truly believe that without these influences,
I wouldn't be me.

Because of the culture, I'm more daring, sporting.
My parents seldom worry for me when I'm outside,
outstation, oversea,
BECAUSE I'M RELIABLE AND MATURE ENOUGH TO THINK FOR MYSELF.

the words that i just highlighted is the root to teenage pregnancies.
I believe so.
SELF DISCIPLINE form your RELIABILITY, GAIN the TRUST.
The way you speak, present, portray your MATURITY.
YOU DO NOT do what others ask you to do,
YOU DO what you think is true and right.

And regardless of whether we are ASIAN or EUROPEAN or MIDDLE EASTERN,
Basic SEX education is necessary.
It is even better if everyone can speak it loud and shout.
There is nothing to be embarrass of.
One day soon, you are gonna have sex,
SAME SEX, DIFFERENT SEX,
that is not an issues too,
as long as you are 100% conscious of what you are doing.

PLAY BY THE LAW,
I will not say, is a MUST,
but it is BETTER.
UNDERAGE SEXUAL CONDUCT,
better not, that will not gain you any reliability/trust from your parents. =P

I do have my tradition too,
I may be open minded, but i'm not that WILD.
I don't take 1 night stand,
at least not at the moment,
I don't do prostitute,
SEX for $$, that is not something that I can accept.
Pleasure for $$, can la. eg, if you are very horny type of person,
that you need a lot of pleasure, GO AHEAD.
But, guys, beware of HIV.
it is not fair for your wife and family if you are a HIV carrier,
due to your irresistible and uncontrollable pleasure seeking.
I still uses chopstick (the right way)
I use have union dinner every year.
I still pray, when my parents asked me to (because i think i'm a free thinker lo)
It is theirs religious, and i RESPECT that.
I still address my parents as PA and MA and not by names,
(sometimes got la, for fun)
I still address my bro as bro instead of by name,
I address every senior with the proper title.
I address older people SIR, MDM, but not OI!

I practice ASIA-ISM too.
But i'm as open minded as other people, non Asia.
and most importantly,
I prefer SAFE SEX IF you ask me.
and i think that is very important,
you don't like ur life control you,
you take control of your life. :)
I plan your pregnancies,
but not having pregnancies while you know you still need to attend school
and sit for SPM, STPM in 4 months time,
where you are gonna carry a BIG and HUGE BELLY to school.

Cheers, just my 2 cents. ASIAN and SEX? WHY NOT?! ^^